Parties over...

I walked away from this one a little battered. It's not over of course so I can certainly have another shot at it. Tonight was the birthday party of a very close friend. Nearly family if you know what I mean. Anyway, I love these people dearly and they are a ton of fun to be around. Tonight was different though, tonight took a swan dive onto the pavement towards the end.

The story: The husband, who is a good man, comes from a background of drinking and though is normally in control can travel well over the line if not monitored, as was the case tonight. The party went well untill most of the guests had left and then it became apparent that he had had to much to drink and was still going. It's wild to see the change of a person once the inhabition it utterly removed. This guy can flood a room with the quantity of curses that pour from his mouth. (Both the four letter version and the JC's and GD's which get me so rapidly riled up.) Not that he has a focused anger, it seems to be a habit let loose in the moment. I wanted to ask him to stop and truthfuly I should have, but I didn't. Partially becasue he was so drunk I didn't think he'd remember from the then to the next minute and I hate to waste the effort when he wakes up tomorrow and doesnt remember. Also because I am still learning to speak up against such unwitting attacks. I have been doing it at work but being in the moment here it didn't come as easy. Anyway, as if that weren't rough enough, as we left the party (last ones to leave) the wife and the husband got into it. She didn't mean to pick a fight and he didn't want to hear anything she had to say unless it agreed with him. (I think I've had similar moments sober :p) This went very quickly into the precurser to a domestic disturbance call. We hung around to mediate though not to much sucess I might add and then when things got quiet we left. I got a call a bit later that things had gotten much worse not long after we left and I wont say what I mean. Needless to say I felt bad for leaving and unfortunatly live to far to just drive over at 2:30 in the morning. What obviously needs done is clear and no this is not the first time. But in the end this fight rests with the family. The wife has yet to follow through with threats of leaving and their is no effective reasoning with which to bring authorities in on. The husband has yet to step up to his responsabilities regarding the matter. After all that I would like to state that these people are some of the kindest, giving, and loving people I know. The post gives a fairly negative view of them but it is by no means a complete view of them.

Then I suddenly wondered why I seem to be having so much going on with real problems and dealings with others. As apposed to the "Maguiver Files" or tiny revelations like the earlier posts. Then it struck me (or He struck me) I literaly asked for this. ^_^ I asked for a job and I asked to be developed for a purpose. These aren't the jobs I have envisioned but they are jobs none the less and no doubt I am being refined in the process. So, taking this in stride, I stepped forward and tossed my hat in the ring again. I sent him a letter which I am praying is recieved in proper time and taken in proper context. Also, that it doesnt fall on a hardened heart. Pray with me.

Read The Letter